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7 Tips on How Lawyers Can Deal With the Fear of Loneliness

Sixty-one percent of lawyers ranked above average on the loneliness scale, Now with working from home due to COVID-19, many find the problem exacerbated.

How Lawyers Can Deal With Loneliness
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Stan Popovich

June 3, 2020 08:00 AM

Many lawyers spend time alone when it comes to their jobs. Getting a case ready and doing the necessary research can lead to long hours by themselves when they work at a law firm or if they have their own business.

In addition, many lawyers (and others) are working from home due to the COVID-19 situation without having regular contact with their peers. This can lead to episodes of loneliness over time. In order for a lawyer to find ways to overcome their loneliness, they need to first understand that everyone deals with loneliness sometime in their life.

The first step to overcoming loneliness is to become comfortable with one’s self and having the self-confidence that they can manage when they are by themselves. If a lawyer finds it difficult in dealing with their loneliness, then they should talk to a mental health counselor or join a mental health support group in their area to get additional advice to their situation.

Regardless of why you may experience some loneliness in your personal life or career, there are things you can do to help manage being alone.

Here are seven tips on how lawyers can overcome the fear of loneliness at their job and personal life, especially during these challenging times:

  1. Find An Activity: The first step is to find an activity that you enjoy and where you can meet a lot of people. Doing something that you like to do will make you happy and will increase your chances of making friends. Spending long hours at your job without interacting with others can make things worse, so its important to take a break and go out and spend some time with others.
  2. Spend Time With Animals: Spending time with an animal or pet can help us to feel better. Animals can be of good company to all of us whether we are alone or not. There are many local shelters that could use your time and talents. If your time is limited, spending some time with a dog or cat can uplift your spirits and reduce depression and anxiety in your life.
  3. Help Others: There are many people out there who could benefit from your time and skillsets. Helping others can give you a source of pride and accomplishment and also can lead to friendships. The key is not to focus on your legal career 100 percent of the time. Take some time to help others, and you will be a lot happier.
  4. It Could Be Worse: It isn't fun being alone, but sometimes there are worse things. Feel happy with what you have at the moment and the things you might have taken for granted. With this viewpoint, being alone doesn't sound that bad. The next time you get lonely, remember that things could be a lot worse.
  5. Take Things One Step At A Time: Do not dwell on your loneliness and learn to take it one day at a time. Many lawyers tend to look ahead and feel that they will always be alone. The key is to take it one day at a time and focus on how you can improve your situation in the present. Call one of your friends, go to a movie, or find something that will help you stay connected with others.
  6. Loneliness Does Not Last: Nothing remains the same forever. No one can predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy. Events change all of the time. Even if the thing that you feared does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can't predict which can be used to your advantage. The fact of the matter is that your loneliness will not last forever if you make an effort to deal with it today.
  7. You're Not The Only One Who Is Alone: Remember that everyone deals with loneliness sometime in their life. Focus on your life, and don't compare yourself to others. Continue to seek friendships with other people, and don't feel sorry for yourself. There are kinds of people in various circumstances so don't assume that you are the only one who is alone.

Again, the best way to overcome your loneliness is to see a counselor or join a mental health support group. Either way, you will get additional advice on how to deal with your specific situation.

Stan Popovich is the author of the popular managing fear book, “A Layman’s Guide To Managing Fear”. For more information about Stan’s book and to get some free mental health advice, please visit Stan’s website at www.managingfear.com
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