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How You Can Avoid a Civil Suit (And Why You Want To)

You don't need to go to court to handle a civil suit. Find out your alternative options.

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Ryan B. Bormaster

January 22, 2019 02:31 PM

Believe it or not, it’s actually in your best interests for a civil suit to stay out of the courtroom. This holds true whether you’re the plaintiff or the defendant. But how can you avoid that court date, exactly?

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  • Court is rarely the win people expect. Civil lawsuits often drain time, money and relationships before a judge ever rules.
  • Most disputes move toward settlement because calm, direct negotiation makes practical outcomes more reachable for both sides.
  • Small choices matter. Staying patient, managing expectations and continuing to build your case can keep talks productive.
  • Act early. Handling negotiations the right way now may spare you years of litigation and escalating costs.

Why Avoiding a Civil Lawsuit Is Often the Best Outcome

I’d like to start by dropping a bit of news that might surprise you. Simply put, regardless of the circumstances, regardless of whether you’re the plaintiff or defendant, the majority of the time, it’s in your best interests to keep a civil suit out of the courtroom. Sure, you might have the occasional case where one of the two parties wants to take things public and air everything out before a judge. But litigation is stressful. It’s expensive, time-consuming and frustrating. Moreover, where civil suits are concerned, it has the troubling tendency to exacerbate a situation that’s already emotionally charged, resulting in a drawn-out fight that leaves both sides bitter and angry. Even if you were friendly with the person on the other side of the courtroom before standing before a judge, good luck mending fences once you’ve argued things out in court.

There’s a reason so many civil cases end up going into the song-and-dance of settlement offers before a judge is brought in. Not only is it much easier to work things out when you aren’t legally at one another’s throats, but it’s also a lot simpler to develop a win/win scenario if you can sit down and talk things out constructively.

How to Stop a Civil Lawsuit from Escalating to Court

But how do you ensure that’s even possible? How do you keep negotiations open without everything falling down around your ears? In a few ways. Knowing how to stop a civil lawsuit from escalating often comes down to how both sides handle negotiations before court becomes inevitable.

Settlement Agreement Advice That Helps Keep Disputes Out of Court

The following settlement agreement advice reflects practical approaches that can help keep discussions productive without changing the nature of the dispute itself.

Remain Calm During Settlement Discussions

Always remain calm. If tempers are flaring, that means you’ve already lost. During depositions and settlement meetings, keep your wits about you and don’t let the other side goad you into saying or doing anything you might regret.

Maintain Realistic Expectations About Outcomes

Keep a realistic outlook. Try to keep an open mind about what’s likely to happen and always be willing to look at things from your opponent’s perspective. The more you understand what they’re doing, the better equipped you’ll be to reach a settlement you can both be satisfied with. If your case does go to court, a thorough understanding of your opponent will help a great deal.

Be Patient with the Resolution Process

Be patient. Civil suits take a long time to resolve, sometimes years depending on how extensive they are. Very rarely are they resolved overnight. Understand, though, that if you rush to court, there’s a good chance things will take even longer.

Continue Building Your Case While Negotiations Are Ongoing

Never stop building your case. You’d be surprised where you might find new evidence or where a new argument might surface. Even if you think you have an ironclad case, you should always be on the lookout for new information.

Rely on Your Attorney’s Guidance

Trust your attorney. Last but certainly not least, assuming you’ve done your due diligence before hiring, trust that your attorney knows what they’re doing and has your best interests at heart. If they can secure a settlement offer you are comfortable with, they will. That outcome is often preferable to spending hours upon hours in court.

Resolving Civil Disputes Without Going to Court

Civil suits are stressful enough without bringing them into the courtroom. By understanding your opponent’s position, keeping calm and professional and remaining patient, this settlement agreement advice can increase the likelihood of resolving a dispute without stepping before a judge.


Ryan B. Bormaster is the managing attorney at Bormaster Law. The law firm practices in a number of areas but specializes in 18 Wheeler Accidents, Accidents with Commercial Vehicles such as Work Trucks and Catastrophic Injuries of all kinds.

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